I write to you in this new year, the year 2014 re: solutions. The first solution that will pave the way to many others, is to making the world we live in a nicer place to be.
It’s a pretty easy solution, and easy to implement too, so I plead for you to give it a go.
The solution is to replace the word ‘wrong’ with ‘different’ when describing people. Whether it’s a stranger, friend, family, or someone from a different walk of life, never use the word ‘wrong’. Instead, use ‘different’. There are no exceptions to this rule.
What about murderers? I hear you say. Or rapists and terrorists?
Well, the law is allowed to use the word wrong in describing them. The law will find them guilty or not. But for you and I, these people are different from us.
I truly believe in this, as in the last few years, I have come to realise that humanity is reeked with problems. Every person on this earth has issues. No one leads a perfect life and no one is loved by all. Everyone has their own story to tell.
Since it is impossible to ever know the full story of anyone, even of ourselves, we cannot ever know if someone’s actions are wrong. In their position, it might be the right thing for them to do, or it might even be the only thing that they could do. If we accept that they are different, and that we cannot understand their reasons for their actions (even if it were explained to us), then we can at least move on from it.
Humans are burdened with emotions, knowledge, ego, and individuality. Nothing is black or white with humans – there is just different shades of grey. Different levels of different.
So, next time you’re in a situation where you find yourself feeling angry, disappointed or even sad about someone, or something that someone did, take a deep breath and consider how different that person is to you. You cannot change other people, or even understand that person’s thoughts or actions, but you can make the situation better for everyone, by understanding that you are different.
Then, you’ll probably be calmer, and more likely to help find a compromise in the situation that could appease everyone. Peace is a good thing, you know.
So remember. We are all different, and no one is wrong.